|The Boys Are Back In Town
Now, I’m not saying that watching people strip is something that I do a lot, but writing this post has made me realise that it happens more than is probably usual (in my work life at least)! Last Wednesday I was at London Burlesque Festival watching men get their kit off - for a change - (and it’s about time to be honest), marking the third burlesque performance I’ve seen in about 8 months; though maybe that says more about how good burlesque is...
|‘It’s Just Sex…But With Someone I Like’
We’re half way through Masturbation Month so by now you should be used to showing yourself a good time! As we’re sure you’re aware, we’re big believers in the power of self-love to make yourself feel fi-ine: it’s free, safe, and releases mood-boosting neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin, which are basically your body’s chemical hallelujah. But, instead of boring you by going on about how awesome masturbation and orgasms are – because of...
|Mother's Little Helper
We believe that pleasure should be universal, so whilst Je Joue’s UK HQ may be eternally jealous of those enjoying strange things like ‘corn dogs’ (seriously, what are they??) and ‘sunlight’ over in the US, we’ve decided not to hold that against them; when we heard that May 12th is Mother’s Day over the pond, we realised that a) there are still some important things we can take from this day that need to be shared INTERNATIONALLY and b) these...
|Not All Good Things Come To An End
So hopefully by now, discovering your G-spot is beginning to make up for the fact that Santa, fairies and low-fat chocolate (sadly) aren’t real! ...
|The Secret Your Body Wants You To Discover
If you‘re hunting for buried treasure, you need a decent map; you wouldn’t attempt to tackle a cross-country adventure without one either (unless you’re Frodo in LOTR, which got him into all sorts of trouble); and if you’re trying to find your G-Spot, it makes sense to have one on-hand too. So we’ve gathered a few things together as your own G-Spot ‘spirit guide’ – less tricky than Gollum and less confusing than a road-map!...
|Your Body's Personal Holy Grail
The well-publicised debate about the existence of the G-Spot can make us feel like a cat watching a tennis match: the media tell us that it exists one day, and doesn’t the next. Research has been published supporting both arguments, so many have remained sceptical, torn between a desire to believe that it does exist and the fear of getting their hopes up in case it doesn’t. But what may not be as commonly known is that it all began back in the...
|The G-Spot Does Exist!
People say there’s no mystery left in the world; that once you’ve found out that Santa, E.T. and sparkly vampire men aren’t real, there’s very little that can cause both wonder and joy. Well, luckily for you, we’ve decided to name this month G-SPOT MONTH and prove to you that there’s at least one ‘myth’ that is real, and is also many different kinds of amazing (and more fun for adults than any of the things listed above)....
|One Billion (And One)
In the last couple of months we’ve had International Women’s Day, V-Day, One Billion Rising and hundreds of demonstrations across the world to end violence against women (particularly in India), so I decided to celebrate by going to see the eternally controversial Vagina Monologues. I’d heard of Eve Ensler’s infamous monologues, and – like most of the other girls I went with (our male friends had suddenly remembered things they ‘had’ to do) – had...
|(40 Days And) 40 Nights…
Some of us celebrate Easter in memory of the resurrection of Christ. For others, it’s all about chocolate and how many mini eggs you can fit into your mouth during a game of ‘chubby bunny’ (we don’t recommend this without supervision, by the way). For anyone who’s given something up for lent though, it’s about getting what you want after denying yourself for (roughly) 40 days and 40 nights; and even though this began with the Christian faith,...
|How To Give Good...News
One of the most stressful (and my least favourite) tasks in life has to be talking about awkward things: for example, giving someone big or bad news. This is especially true if: you’re not sure how the other person will take the news, and think they might react badly; it’s a social taboo (like, ‘I want to try sex toys’); you’re British. No matter how many times you prepare the speech in your head, when it comes to telling someone something that...
Many of us are guilty of displaying the same attitude toward older people having sex as the British do towards tea without milk: namely awkwardness, then deep, deep denial. The truth is that whilst we are constantly bombarded with images of young, pin-up, Hollywood couples getting it on, it’s much rarer to see a representation of anyone who doesn’t fit that mould – anyone over middle age, for example - enjoying satisfying sex lives or feeling...
|A Dating Lottery
At 9:30pm last Wednesday I found myself gripping the sides of a table, staring - with what I hoped wasn’t a totally manic glint in my eye - at the 20th man I’d met that evening. Nope, I wasn’t interviewing for my parole lawyer; I was speed dating. Like online dating, speed dating is becoming increasingly popular and in response, companies are coming up with increasingly creative ways to make the prospect of meeting a small army of potential...
|The Human Body’s Sexiest Muscle
This week we have a special guest post from Ellie at the health and wellbeing website Stress No More on the benefits of keeping a toned pelvic floor through kegel exercise – enjoy!...
|You Spin Me Right Round...
When someone says the words ‘pole dancing’, our minds take us to dingy clubs where bored-looking strippers throw themselves around a cold metal bar for the amusement of bored-looking businessmen. ...
|V For Victory!
If you’re single on February 14th, leaving the house will probably end in a stand-off with a box of chocolate hearts before retreating to the closest drinks aisle; if you’re with someone, the social etiquette minefield is enough to have you beating your brains out with the Marvin Gaye CD guaranteed to ‘get your lover in the mood’.
|Take Back Valentine's Day
It’s rapidly approaching the time of year that makes single people want to watch bad Slasher films, eat entire boxes of chocolate and then embark on sugar-fuelled rampages across town; and people in relationships fear their significant other might scratch their eyes out with the thorns of the roses they’ve given them (every year for twenty years).
|The Naked Truth
We don’t think it would be an exaggeration to say that people getting naked is something that modern society is obsessed with: despite the fact that we’re all totally nude under our clothes, the cult of celebrity, with their strange, mystical bods, seem to really get the cameras flashing and our collective pulse racing. Maybe we’re just hoping to catch a glimpse of something that proves beyond a doubt, that yes, they are a different species to...
|Feeling All Tied Up?
Usually, giving someone a good beating will land you 5-10 years; enjoying the beating would probably put you in a place where you can chew on the padded walls all day long. But when referring to BDSM – something which, at least superficially, appears to involve just that – society is starting to swing the other way, and from our best-sellers to our bedrooms, kink is officially in....
|The Buzz About FOMO
FOMO, or fear of missing out, is the latest buzzword in the modern woman’s world. Ever been sat at home on a Friday night, initially overjoyed to have a moment to yourself but then sobbing into your Ben and Jerry’s as your traitor of a twitter-feed is flooded with pictures of your friends at #theBESTpartyever? That’s FOMO. And it’s starting to spill over into our sex lives. We’re expected to do so much nowadays that it’s baffling that we have...
|Girls In Real Life
The New Year has been a much anticipated event in my life for some time now. Not just because it was an excuse to buy a sparkly dress that makes me look like a giant disco-ball and dance like a maniac, but because the second season of Lena Dunham’s ‘Girls’ is being released. Everyone has a series that causes them to anticipate each episode like a squirrel that’s spied a nut roast but if, like me, you’re still living with your parents in an...
|At The Climax of the Year
Hollywood has, on several occasions, predicted that by 2013 we would be well on our way to riding around on hover boards whilst our housemaid robots do the cooking for us (thanks for getting our hopes up, 80s). As we clearly don’t have the Terminator dicing our carrots for us yet, it’s easy to fall into the trap of stressing about the things we haven’t achieved, collectively and individually, rather than focusing on what we can do to move...
|Orgasms Are For Life, Not Just For Christmas
Rumour has it that the magic of Christmas is just for kids. Ok, so as adults we get to: eat mince pies until raisin-poisoning genuinely becomes a concern (one year it’s going to happen!); see snowmen appear everywhere (including some last year in compromising positions that we won’t discuss here); and stress for weeks beforehand about what to buy our families, friends and milkmen (and then leave all our shopping to Christmas Eve anyway). ...
|When Education Got Fun!
There are certain things that we think it’s OK not to know (Justin Beiber’s date of birth, for example). But there are some things that we believe it’s good to know, and top of this list is information about our bodies and sexuality. In a previous post, we applauded the relaxing of attitudes toward sex in recent times, but it’s also true that many of us are still living in a bit of a sexual Dark Age. This particular topic may not be top of...
|Coming Out Of The Closet
Sometimes it’s easy to feel like we’re living in a bad Victorian movie, keeping our ankles (metaphorically) under wraps and sexual desires firmly behind closed doors. But, thanks in no small part to a few brave pioneers - such as lovely ladies Kate Chopin, Anais Nin and Helen Gurley Brown - a sexplosion in the last century has not only brought sexual expression into mainstream culture, it’s now starting to influence it.
|Not Your Average Saturday Night Out
The other Saturday night I found myself watching a nearly-naked woman removing her stockings with her teeth. For some of you, this may be your standard Saturday (unfortunately for me there’s typically a lot less nakedness and a lot more Chicken Cottage), but I bet that even if it is, you’re not usually in the same room as 50 other people with a job-lot of glitter, feathers and nipple tassels....
|Behind Closed Doors
Religious or not, there are few better things that get us into the spirit of Christmas than the advent calendar. Mince pie season is September to March, Christmas cards appear in the shops millennia before Christmas itself, but you truly know that it’s Christmas when you peel back that ‘1’ door on December 1st....
|A Time To Give Thanks
Thanksgiving stretches our waste-bands with turkey and the trimmings (basically what our British cousins simply have for dinner every Sunday) and primes and preps us for Holiday eating in the coming months. Friends and family come together during the worst travel days of the year to share a gluttonous meal, Macy’s blows up giant balloons, NFL football has 30 games for us to watch and many of us reflect on the things that we are grateful for in...
|Cupcakes And Christian Grey
Once, in an English class at school, we were asked to blind compare two passages - one was Mills & Boon, one was a Classic (D.H. Lawrence I think)- and to guess which was which. Of course we all guessed wrong, illustrating two things: one, that ‘literary’ authors can still be filthy, and two, that our prejudices toward a genre may stop us reading something that still has literary worth. Ok so adding a few sex scenes doesn't automatically produce...
|We Never Thought Our Morning Walk To Work Could Be So Thought Provoking...
A few months ago we were walking to work when we were confronted with an unusual and extremely large billboard ad, after which we can tell you the following: seeing a giant poster for condoms first thing in the morning will definitely wake you up. After a few weeks the ad was replaced with something marginally less controversial (Lana del Rey’s pout) and then yesterday, like a mini, safe-sex miracle (well, more like a massive, building-covering...
|Don't Let The Kids Have All The Fun
When it comes to things that go bump in the night, Halloween is the perfect holiday for demons, daters, spectres and singles alike: traditionally a time when spirits are closer to the land of the living, it’s become an evening when anything goes. So, instead of taking the typical, adult view of the day and bemoaning the usurpation of religious holidays by the card companies, this year we urge you to throw cynicism out the window and embrace an...
|Let's Talk About Sex
Let’s be honest - in the past it was generally assumed that the only people who used sex toys were deviants who lacked a second pair of hands; desperate housewives in the depths of Suburbia; or men in trench coats lurking behind the velvet-curtain of respectability. But since the sex positive revolution is already under way, this raises some questions that need to be addressed. Ok, you may not have your friends casually drop, ‘Let’s talk about...
|Back To School
This month, thousands of Freshers are being sent off with little more than beans and a pocketful of dreams (or the less advisable, pocketful of beans), into the big bad world of unsupervised living.
|Would You Call Your GP...?
When it comes to evolutionary importance the order is: apes; man; the wheel; the vibrator; everything else. We live in an age where there are some amazing vibrators available, but this is probably because humans have been perfecting the design for hundreds of years. Literally....
|Welcome To Our World
There’s no denying that 2012 has been a pretty exceptional year: London hosts the Olympics (and actually does a good job of it!); an erotic novel becomes the UK’s fastest selling book of all time; and Je Joue launches a new blog to accompany its fantastic new website! ...